Isn’t that life though. Always something to worry about, always something to make you smile.
I guess our worries are all to do with DH job. His disability and occasional absence is causing some concern with his boss. The thing is the boss is basically a bully. He keeps asking DH when he will be off the crutches, when will he have finished taking the painkillers. I mean, how long is a piece of string for goodness sake !!!!! Its actually going to be never, he’s had this problem for years, and though he’s had ops and treatments over the years the last 6 months have been bad. In January hubby had a ‘light bulb’ moment that made him realise he’s disabled. My DH job has always included occasional site visits, these went from being just a couple each month to 6 a month, and this was changed without consultation and at a time when my DH was signed off sick for a month. When asked why he had changed to 6, his answer was ‘I just picked a number’. He keeps asking if DH is capable of going out on site yet, is he healthy enough….this is something that Occ Health should be answering, or the boss determining once a Risk Assessment done…..but none of this is done. Two months on from the first Absence interview when OH was recommended and the referral has finally gone off today.
DH is sick of being in pain, sick of being bullied, sick of the stress. Unions are involved and hopefully this can be sorted. The company doesn’t have a DDA policy in place and are using DH disability absences as a normal absence to be disciplined….that is against DDA law, but they don’t care. DH has decided he has to file a grievance, but the HR dept told him he can’t just hand it in, that he has to speak to this boss, yeah right, boss won’t answer straight questions never mind talk turkey !!!
DH has had advise today thou that he should be claiming against the company for the fall he had in December, as it was this that put him back on the crutches. He’d actually started going without the stick occasionally too, but then the fall in the car park, because they hadn’t taken precautions for the employees, means he’s in more pain and problems than he has been for a while. He hasn’t lost earnings, so its likely that if he does get any compensation its for pain and suffering….it should be pain, pain, pain, pain, stress, bullying, suffering, pain, pain !!!!
The good side of things. DD has won a writing competition at school and we’ve been invited in to school to the assembly that will present the awards to the children that won. She is so clever. She told me today that she did a piece of literacy in class this morning and the teacher read it out to the whole class because her imagination and writing was amazing. So proud of her.
We’ve recently had a death in the family, another member had slight stroke, and DH told he needs major op. I’ve been asked to work temporarily as Dinner Lady at school for the next four months, funding has been cut for music and dance that daughter goes to, a good friend has started cancer treatment……so all in all a very busy hectic month.
Thing is, we have to keep going, its alright saying we are fed up, but we still have to cope with it all, still have to get through each day with as little fuss as possible. The alarm still goes off and its time to get up, time to get breakfast and time to take DD to school. Then if I want to sit and wallow for a while i can LOL, seriously though things are unsettled, but we are hanging in there !!